What’s Your Prime?
by Michael Feeley
Someone said it to me recently (casually, as if it were true) “Why are you still doing this. You’re past your prime.”
I’ve been thinking about that ever since. Not because it stung. Because it revealed something important about how the world misreads people like us.
The phrase assumes one thing: that a life has a single peak. One summit. One window of flourishing. After that, the story goes, you’re on the descent.
That is not the truth. That is a very small story. And Sagers — people who understand that aging is not a conclusion but a continuation — know it doesn’t fit.
Here’s what I think. There are three kinds of Sagers (primers) and none of them are past anything.
1. The Not-Yet Primer
These are people whose prime simply hasn’t arrived. Not because they’ve been idle — but because they’ve been loading.
- Grandma Moses picked up a paintbrush seriously at 78.
- Frank McCourt published his first book at 66 and won the Pulitzer Prize.
- Julia Child didn’t become a household name until her 50s.
They weren’t late. They were accumulating everything they needed to do the work only they could do.
If you feel your best contribution is still ahead of you, you are probably right.
The science of creativity confirms that experimental innovators — people who build, synthesize, and connect across decades — often do their most significant work in their 50s, 60s, and beyond.
2. The Serial Primer
These vintage champions have already lived one remarkable chapter — and are building toward another. They understand that a prime is not a destination. It’s a season. And seasons return.
- Nelson Mandela became president of South Africa at 75.
- Laura Ingalls Wilder published the first Little House book at 65.
- Harriet Doerr won the National Book Award for her debut novel at 73.
Each of them had already lived a full life before their next act began.
If you’ve already had a prime and feel another one gathering — trust that. Go with it.
3. The Continuous Primer
These senior warriors and goddesses have quietly rejected the peak metaphor altogether. They don’t see life as a mountain with a summit and a descent. They see it as a river — always moving, always finding new channels, always carrying something forward.
For them, the question was never when is my prime? It has always been what is this next stretch going to reveal?
What connects all three? Not one of them accepted the story the status quo handed them about retiring and being done. That refusal — quiet, confident, unshakeable — is the Sager move.
You are not past your prime. You may not have hit it yet. You may be building your next one. Or you may have decided, wisely, that the river doesn’t peak.
Thanks – Michael (he, him)
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This also matters – The Physics of Ageing.
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