What a Choice to Live With – Gratitude or Resentment

What a Choice to Live With – Gratitude or Resentment

by Michael Feeley July 15, 2020


Have you ever noticed how quickly people can shift from something good to something rotten?

They make a choice to like something and then knock it down.

They seem to be happy and grateful and suddenly resentment erupts… good feelings get shadowed by a bad hope and what began as something positive and nice shifts right into negativity and spite.

It can go like this:

  • “Great to hear about your new job! Let’s see how long this one lasts.”
  • “I’m so happy we’re friends but Helen won’t like it if she sees us together.”
  • “You’re always so positive. It’s pretty irritating.”

See how quickly people shift back and forth between gratitude and resentment – positive to negative – goodness and joy into meanness?

What a study this shuttling back and forth is but the exciting fact is this — you always have a choice. You can select gratitude over resentment and the process, choices, feelings, thoughts and preferences you make will directly affect the quality of your entire life and the kind of person you will be.

One of my favorite quotes about changing negativity into optimism is by American composer, pianist and band leader
Duke Ellington. Reading it always makes me happy:

“I merely took the energy it takes to pout and wrote some blues.”

What an inspiring and fun choice, right?

Thanks – Michael

Please send this post out to  increase peoples gratitude.
And… see what you think of this – You’re Born With Endless Gratitude.


Michael has twenty years experience matching people with positions that allows them to reach their potential. Having worked with corporate decision makers, Michael has expertise in understanding organizational needs in multiple industries. He understands, experientially and intuitively, what gets people hired and what doesn’t. With a big heart and intellect to match, Michael Feeley is an authority on bringing the best out of business owners, executives, and entrepreneurs… he has such amazing energy, not to mention a terrific business background.

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Business Coach, Brand Strategist & Best Selling Author

…as a trainer I watched Michael Feeley become a masterful coach, being adept at many coaching skills… he is supportive, motivational, action-oriented, open minded, authentic, confident and compassionate… such a delight to work with… fun, high-energy, intuitive, spontaneous!… I have observed him to be very inspirational, empowering, and encouraging clients to go to greater depths in their lives. He is a true ambassador of the profession… Michael has heart and soul along with the ability to deliver!

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Vice President iPEC – Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching

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Host of Studio Time Podcast


Michael Feeley walks the walk and talks the talk. He is honest, authentic and incredibly generous in spirit. Michael’s deep commitment to service means his clients get his full attention and will benefit from his coaching skills, experience and wisdom.

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London ON Canada

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