Play Small or Change

Play Small or Change

by Michael Feeley January 6, 2024


HOW READY ARE YOU for change when it meets you head-on?

What if you discover (with the help of a friend and fellow coach) that you’re playing too small? You’re not living up to your potential in life, not entirely using your skills, instincts, knowledge, expertise, and life experience. What would you do?

Sit still, beat yourself up, and shrink into despair – or – see the opportunity to change and grab it? To quickly and easily shift into your true self, your natural comfort zone, to move from scarcity to largeness, abundance, positive energy, renewed passion, clarity, and freedom.

It’s a reasonable and doable choice – like turning on a light, and suddenly you see everything better.

Change is happening to me. I welcome it!

Overnight, I began reexamining the truth about who I AM  and what I do as an Executive Leadership Coach.

I’m  studying the facts about the people I coach – the work they do – the companies I work with – the results achieved – and it’s empowering, humbling, and gratifying.

Change is a process that can happen fast with logic and precision.

One morning, you’re the understudy and get the call – you’re on! You step into your destiny because you’re ready. It’s what you’ve worked for, what others believe in, and what you are meant to do.

I’ve often experienced coaching others in and through change, and it’s fortunately happening to me.

Too often, we sell ourselves short. We believe our inner critic who tells us we’re not worth it – small is all we deserve to be.

And then there’s fear of change. Fear is a killer! I see the effects in myself – living partially. Faking. False to my whole self.
I feel relief as I widen my path and move forward into new changes and possibilities.

We all know if we’re playing small and long for someone to call us out on it.

I understand why I have loved this quote by Nelson Mandela for years and always use it in my coaching work – it’s about me.

“There is no passion to be found playing small –
in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”

If you are playing small, where might it be, and how willing are you to examine it and change?


*Thank you, Robert Hargrove, for caring enough to say what you see and ask the right questions.


Thanks – Michael (he, him)

Please share this Daily with your tribes.
This also matters – Change Fear Into Confidence.


Michael has twenty years experience matching people with positions that allows them to reach their potential. Having worked with corporate decision makers, Michael has expertise in understanding organizational needs in multiple industries. He understands, experientially and intuitively, what gets people hired and what doesn’t. With a big heart and intellect to match, Michael Feeley is an authority on bringing the best out of business owners, executives, and entrepreneurs… he has such amazing energy, not to mention a terrific business background.

Libby Gill

Business Coach, Brand Strategist & Best Selling Author

…as a trainer I watched Michael Feeley become a masterful coach, being adept at many coaching skills… he is supportive, motivational, action-oriented, open minded, authentic, confident and compassionate… such a delight to work with… fun, high-energy, intuitive, spontaneous!… I have observed him to be very inspirational, empowering, and encouraging clients to go to greater depths in their lives. He is a true ambassador of the profession… Michael has heart and soul along with the ability to deliver!

Deborah Van de Grift – CPC, ELI-MP, PCC

Vice President iPEC – Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching

You, my friend, are the Real Deal.

Matthew Carey

Host of Studio Time Podcast


Michael Feeley walks the walk and talks the talk. He is honest, authentic and incredibly generous in spirit. Michael’s deep commitment to service means his clients get his full attention and will benefit from his coaching skills, experience and wisdom.

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Psychotherapist, Photographer and Storyteller /

London ON Canada

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