by Michael Feeley May 29, 2024


There are inner and outer bullies.

An inner bully is your own resistance that tells you in a particular way that you are not worthy and will never be.

Outer bullies are people who actively make your life miserable.

A bully consistently harms on purpose. They intimidate, torment, aggressively dominate, tyrannize, oppress, persecute, browbeat, and insult. Does this sound appealing to you? Is it something you’d like to participate in or receive? Is it something you wish for your children?

Bullying unfortunately happens everywhere – in families, the schoolyard, on social media, at work, in all professions, in politics, and between nations. It can be related to age, disabilities, nationality, race, religion, gender, sex, or sexual orientation.

It’s unacceptable physical and mental abuse and the need to have power. The only way to change it is to stand up to it somehow. To actively do whatever it takes to end this ugly choice of brutality.

When taking action, taking care of yourself and others is crucial because bullies are dangerous. There are risks in facing your bully, especially at work, if they are higher up than you.

I recently learned something new about bullies. Often, bullies go after a person because there is something about that person a bully doesn’t have and wants in their life, and instead of working to add it, achieve, and improve themselves, they resent you and attack.

It could be your freedom, confidence, sharp mind, good grades, friends and connections, skills, or personal life choices.

Bullies want you to be unsure and live in fear, to lay back, not be your true self, and to focus your attention on them.

Sometimes, a bullied person blames themselves for being attacked. You ask: What’s wrong with me? What did I do to attract this kind of hatred in my life? What did I do to the people who go after me?

I survived bullying throughout junior high and high school. Survival for me meant understanding bullies and why they do what they do, which is what I have been studying for some time. I use my experience to be a kinder person and not to harm others but to help others who have lived through this and those who might be affected now.

Don’t keep this nightmare to yourself. Find someone to talk with and help yourself come up with a solution.


Thanks – Michael (he, him)

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Michael has twenty years experience matching people with positions that allows them to reach their potential. Having worked with corporate decision makers, Michael has expertise in understanding organizational needs in multiple industries. He understands, experientially and intuitively, what gets people hired and what doesn’t. With a big heart and intellect to match, Michael Feeley is an authority on bringing the best out of business owners, executives, and entrepreneurs… he has such amazing energy, not to mention a terrific business background.

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