Understanding is What We Each Want

Understanding is What We Each Want

by Michael Feeley June 9, 2021


I LOOK FOR specific ways to help a person feel understood – seen and heard.

Acknowledging – letting someone know that I listen to them, really hear what they have to say, and I care because
they matter. Acknowledging is a powerful choice. It’s as simple as – “I hear you say this….”

Validating – encouraging someone to know they have a right to feel the way they do. I’m not judging. Not telling them they’re right or wrong but letting them know I see things from their point of view. I don’t have to agree with the person, but I hope they’ll release what they feel and think.

Celebrating – choosing to honor someone’s achievements, their growth, standing up for them when they may doubt themselves or want to lessen their meaning. It’s the well-deserved pat on the back for what they have accomplished – honestly praising them and asking them to celebrate who they are.

Championing – happens before someone completes a goal, and I cheer them on. Bringing out their goodness; believing
that person can do what they hope for – “I know you can do this!”

Inspiring – seeing the greatness in someone and telling them why they encourage me and others. I want to build self-esteem – to lift someone by seeing the absolute best in them – valuing their gifts, wisdom, and heart.

Try these compassionate skills out and watch what happens when your purpose is to know another person and
help them be all they can be.


Thanks – Michael

Please share this post to bring out the best in people.
I think this will also inspire you – Kindness is Tough.


Michael has twenty years experience matching people with positions that allows them to reach their potential. Having worked with corporate decision makers, Michael has expertise in understanding organizational needs in multiple industries. He understands, experientially and intuitively, what gets people hired and what doesn’t. With a big heart and intellect to match, Michael Feeley is an authority on bringing the best out of business owners, executives, and entrepreneurs… he has such amazing energy, not to mention a terrific business background.

Libby Gill

Business Coach, Brand Strategist & Best Selling Author

…as a trainer I watched Michael Feeley become a masterful coach, being adept at many coaching skills… he is supportive, motivational, action-oriented, open minded, authentic, confident and compassionate… such a delight to work with… fun, high-energy, intuitive, spontaneous!… I have observed him to be very inspirational, empowering, and encouraging clients to go to greater depths in their lives. He is a true ambassador of the profession… Michael has heart and soul along with the ability to deliver!

Deborah Van de Grift – CPC, ELI-MP, PCC

Vice President iPEC – Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching

You, my friend, are the Real Deal.

Matthew Carey

Host of Studio Time Podcast


Michael Feeley walks the walk and talks the talk. He is honest, authentic and incredibly generous in spirit. Michael’s deep commitment to service means his clients get his full attention and will benefit from his coaching skills, experience and wisdom.

Kathy Karn

Psychotherapist, Photographer and Storyteller /

London ON Canada

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