Let’s reconsider the word manipulation.

Somewhere along the way, it became synonymous with scheming, controlling, being cunning and underhanded. But manipulation, at its core, is simply skillful handling. And there’s nothing inherently dark about that.

Your yoga teacher manipulates your body into alignment, hands guiding your hips, adjusting your shoulders so you can breathe deeper, stretch further, avoid injury. That’s manipulation in service of your wellbeing.

Your doctor manipulates your health trajectory with vaccines, prescriptions, lifestyle recommendations. She’s managing your care, directing your path toward wellness. You trust her to do this because her intentions are clear and her expertise is real.

Your financial advisor manipulates your portfolio, moving pieces strategically, protecting your future, helping you navigate complexity you don’t have time to master yourself. That’s resourceful, not conniving.

When you’re picking up the pieces after a setback—a career derailment, a relationship rupture, a health crisis—you’re manipulating circumstances back into workable order. You’re assessing what’s broken, what can be salvaged, what needs rebuilding. You’re being strategic about your own recovery. That’s positive manipulation.

The difference isn’t in the action. It’s in the intention and the transparency.

Manipulation becomes toxic when it’s self-serving and hidden. When someone moves the pieces for their benefit while pretending it’s for yours. When they adjust your position not to help you stretch, but to control, fool, and keep you small.

But when manipulation is done with integrity, with consent, with skill in service of genuine care? That’s called guidance. Leadership. Expertise. Support.

We manipulate situations every day in positive ways. We arrange our schedules to protect our energy. We guide conversations toward productive outcomes. We purposefully position ourselves for opportunities. We help others navigate their blind spots.

This is resourcefulness. Kindness. This is being persuasive in the service of truth.

This is using your experience and insight to help create better outcomes.

The question isn’t whether you manipulate. You do. Everyone does.

The question is why, and for whom.

So yes, be manipulative. Be skillful in your handling of life’s complexities. Move the pieces with intention. Guide others with care. Manage your circumstances with wisdom, experience, expertise.

Ask yourself: what is your purpose?

Who benefits from this manipulation?

How do your actions create goodwill, or do they power ill will?

Thanks – Michael (he, him)

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