How You Judge Defines You

How You Judge Defines You

by Michael Feeley October 17, 2020


People doing their work and minding their business usually do not have time to judge you. They’re too busy creating and living their dream to complain and… they do see you’re working to make things better. Adding to life. As they are doing.

People who judge negatively make the choice to depreciate rather than appreciate. Good work threatens them. They respect your work but  they also resent it. Becoming the cynic instead of the gratitudist.

I’ve written about two kinds of people:

The person who criticizes and complains and does nothing to improve things.


The person who criticizes and complains and does something to create change and make things better. Two different choices.

Think about this:

  • Who stops you from working hard and getting ahead?
  • Who stops you from building trust?
  • Who stops you from having integrity?
  • What stops you from being authentic?
  • Who stops you from being remarkable, indispensable, extraordinary?
  • Who stops you from living your best life?

Usually we stop ourselves.

Sometimes we mistakenly listen to other people who think they are helping but really they are bursting your energy, success, dream bubble. Sometimes a parent, teacher or friend does it – “No. You can’t do that. That’s not how it’s done. Why try?
You won’t succeed.” It’s not meant to be malicious but it has an effect.

They misjudge your deep desire to live your life as you want to. Discouraging your creativity and gifts when they should encourage them 100 percent +++

There’s a saying that I like and see as true – “You will never be judged by anyone doing more than you.”

A true judge or critic promotes what is good along with reporting on the bad and the middling. They judge what has value. They want you to succeed. They have good-will. (Theatre critic, art critic, food critic, hotel review, voice teacher, a client meeting you and your services.)

We should all be judged on our actions and our desire for justice. Judgment should be about equality.

Sorry to say – You will be judged no matter what. So – be yourself and live your life.

Most people hate being judged. What does that tell you about judgment?

Thanks – Michael

And – A big thank you to Lisa Marie Dias for inspiring this post!

Please send this post off to your tribes to promote justice not judgment.
I think this will also inspire you – Your Choice – Respect of Contempt.


Michael has twenty years experience matching people with positions that allows them to reach their potential. Having worked with corporate decision makers, Michael has expertise in understanding organizational needs in multiple industries. He understands, experientially and intuitively, what gets people hired and what doesn’t. With a big heart and intellect to match, Michael Feeley is an authority on bringing the best out of business owners, executives, and entrepreneurs… he has such amazing energy, not to mention a terrific business background.

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