Have To or Want To?

Have To or Want To?

by Michael Feeley September 18, 2020


You do not have to do anything you don’t want to do.

It’s a choice of mine, a value to live my life the way I want. Not to get caught up in the drama of other people, family, friends, work or play.

It’s principle for me choosing to stay centered on my happiness and peace. I’m not being selfish. I’m taking care my personal well-being. Mind, body, heart and soul. (All bases covered.)

I’ve learned that a value based on fear usually is about avoiding something. It’s a – ‘Have To’.

And – when you make a conscious, positive choice it’s a  – ‘Want To.’

People may not agree with your choices. That’s OK. Those are your values – what you want to do – your choice to do as you please and to be true to yourself. It’s integrity. Living your life to be happy and not harming anyone else.

We have all kinds of mundane chores and commitments to do like paying bills, laundry, cleaning, going to meetings, food shopping, paper work, insurance choices, family gatherings, banking and we may hate doing some of them but – how can you change those things from – ‘I have to’ – into – ‘I want to’? Just thinking about it is a great start. The creative answer is in you. I’m confident you’ll find a way. I always do.

How can you create pleasure instead of irritation or pain?

How good does it feel to live in ‘Want To’ and know – This is who I am. This is what I want.

Thanks – Michael

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See what you think about this idea – Freedom of Choice: Your Greatest Gift.


Michael has twenty years experience matching people with positions that allows them to reach their potential. Having worked with corporate decision makers, Michael has expertise in understanding organizational needs in multiple industries. He understands, experientially and intuitively, what gets people hired and what doesn’t. With a big heart and intellect to match, Michael Feeley is an authority on bringing the best out of business owners, executives, and entrepreneurs… he has such amazing energy, not to mention a terrific business background.

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