Describe Not Discriminate

Describe Not Discriminate

by Michael Feeley August 30, 2020


We each are more than our names, given to us at birth. Much, much more. More than our resumes of one or two pages.

We have a surface and profound, amazing, intricate and complicated depths. Isn’t that fantastic!

Professional actor and singer – contractor – linchpin – doctor – headhunter – life coach – writer – photographer – mother – real estate agent – social media expert – website designer – accountant – hotel owner – chef – marketer – gardener – yoga teacher… some with pride and some with Blah, Blah, Blah.

  • What matters to you?
  • How do you want to be seen and to be remembered?
  • How much does that matter?

Labels can be helpful to describe who you are. Your individual self, skills, purpose in life. To free not to restrict.
To describe not to discriminate

Man – woman – father – daughter – Yolanda – Jason – Asian – French – LGBTQ – person – human being…

We make a name for ourselves and it should be one we love and respect. It is your integrity. Your legacy. A good name.
For me it is everything!

How essential is it that you be the same person inside and outside?

The same to yourself as you are to the outside world? One way. Consistent. True. Everywhere.

Do you have the commitment and the courage to be one way? Living in integrity?

Well – that is a challenge and also pretty damn scary! To be whole. Entire in all aspects and areas of your life so that if someone examined you and your life, in every detail and billboard, they would say –

“Hands down. He is true to himself. He has integrity.”

That is what I am after. Who I want to be and how I want to live. That is the gold and diamond and platinum ring and I’m willing to work my head off to achieve it.

It is achievable. It is attainable. It takes extra-ordinary commitment and work and wisdom. Love too. You have the capacity to do it and get it. I reiterate some vital guide lines:

– Know Who You Are (Fortunately it’s a lifelong study with some immediate answers.)

– Like – Love – Accept Yourself Unconditionally

– Be True to Yourself

– Live The BEST Life You Can

I challenge you to do this exercise:

Make a list of your core values, qualities, assets and gifts because these are the facts of your life. The unique truth about you. Do you want to know the the truth about YOU?

Write them down because that makes them real and the list is unlimited to add on to. This is not truth or dare.
This is the truth.

I think of Shakespeare

And his impassioned, simple words from Romeo and Juliet – “What is in a name” – about the quality and essence of something. That if a rose is called something different, it would still smell as sweet as it does with the name ‘rose’ –

”A rose by any other name would smell as sweet…”

When you look in the mirror – eye to eye with just your self – (and this is not an easy exercise to face yourself) and then go deeper, straight into your soul. It is a mighty choice that take guts.

You must be able to like what you see and feel. To understand who you truly are and then… who you want to be. Not tolerate yourself but like, love and accept your self unconditionally by seeing the truth and to live The BEST life you can from that seeing.

We are each greater than we think. Always and in all ways perfect – resourceful – highly creative – magical and worthwhile people… “Wild and precious…” as poet Mary Oliver so perfectly says.

Sure there are things we want to change about ourselves but we can. That is the simple, ordinary, great good news. Our hope to change and become better. HOPE leads us.

Along with valor so we each can share our gifts and shine. Be blindingly brilliant. To sing our specific love song with confidence and freedom and unbounded emotion. Standing proud for who you are – This is who I AM – And do it with all people, in any and every circumstance. This is who I Am. I AM – I AM – I AMMMMMmmmm…!

Thanks – Michael

Please share this post to help people define, describe and know themselves truly.
This too will inspire you – Do Open Heart Surgery on Yourself Daily.


Michael has twenty years experience matching people with positions that allows them to reach their potential. Having worked with corporate decision makers, Michael has expertise in understanding organizational needs in multiple industries. He understands, experientially and intuitively, what gets people hired and what doesn’t. With a big heart and intellect to match, Michael Feeley is an authority on bringing the best out of business owners, executives, and entrepreneurs… he has such amazing energy, not to mention a terrific business background.

Libby Gill

Business Coach, Brand Strategist & Best Selling Author

…as a trainer I watched Michael Feeley become a masterful coach, being adept at many coaching skills… he is supportive, motivational, action-oriented, open minded, authentic, confident and compassionate… such a delight to work with… fun, high-energy, intuitive, spontaneous!… I have observed him to be very inspirational, empowering, and encouraging clients to go to greater depths in their lives. He is a true ambassador of the profession… Michael has heart and soul along with the ability to deliver!

Deborah Van de Grift – CPC, ELI-MP, PCC

Vice President iPEC – Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching

You, my friend, are the Real Deal.

Matthew Carey

Host of Studio Time Podcast


Michael Feeley walks the walk and talks the talk. He is honest, authentic and incredibly generous in spirit. Michael’s deep commitment to service means his clients get his full attention and will benefit from his coaching skills, experience and wisdom.

Kathy Karn

Psychotherapist, Photographer and Storyteller /

London ON Canada

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